Hajj & Umrah Reviews and Community

Well, if you’re a female forget it.
You’re lucky they let you continue breathing.

* Begin with a good greeting.
* Start with Assalamau ‘Aliaykum and a smile. Salam is a sunnah and a du’aa for her as well.
* Shake her hand and leave bad news for later!

Sweet Speech and Enchanting Invitations

* Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones.
* Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks.
* Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands.
* Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart, honey, saaliha, etc.

Friendliness and Recreation

* Spend time talking together.
* Spread to her goods news.
* Remember your good memories together.

Games and Distractions

* Joking around & having a sense of humor.
* Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever.
* Taking her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment.
* Avoiding prohibited (Haram) things in your choices of entertainment.

Assistance in the Household

* Doing what you as an individual can/like to do that helps out, especially if she is sick or tired.
* The most important thing is making it obvious that he appreciates her hard work.

Consultation (Shurah)

* Specifically in family matters.
* Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you.
* Studying her opinion carefully.
* Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better.
* Thanking her for helping him with her opinions.

Visiting Others

* Choosing well raised people to build relations with. There is a great reward in visiting relatives and pious people. (Not in wasting time while visiting!)
* Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during visits.
* Not forcing her to visit whom she does not feel comfortable with.

Conduct During Travel

* Offer a warm farewell and good advice.
* Ask her to pray for him.
* Ask pious relatives and friends to take care of the family in your absence.
* Give her enough money for what she might need.
* Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, e-mail, letters, etc..
* Return as soon as possible.
* Bring her a gift!
* Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night.
* Take her with you if possible.

Financial Support

* The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities. He should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful).
* He gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand (hadeith).
* He is strongly encouraged to give to her before she asks him.

Smelling Good and Physical Beautification

* Following the Sunnah in removing hair from the groin and underarms.
* Always being clean and neat.
* Put on perfume for her.

Aiding in the Obedience to Allah

* Wake her up in the last third of the night to pray "Qiyam-ul-Layl" (extra prayer done at night with long sujood and ruku’ua).
* Teach her what you know of the Qur’an and its tafseer.
* Teach her "Dhikr" (ways to remember Allah by the example of the prophet) in the morning and evening.
* Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity sale.
* Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford to do so.

Showing Respect for her Family and Friends

* Take her to visit her family and relatives, especially her parents.
* Invite them to visit her and welcome them.
* Give them presents on special occasions.
* Help them when needed with money, effort, etc..
* Keep good relations with her family after her death if she dies first. Also in this case the husband is encouraged to follow the sunnah and keep giving what she used to give in her life to her friends and family.

Admirable Jealousy

* Ensure she is wearing proper hijab before leaving house.
* Restrict free mixing with non-mahram men.
* Avoiding excess jealousy.
Examples of this are:
1- Analyzing every word and sentence she says and overloading her speech by meanings that she did not mean
2- Preventing her from going out of the house when the reasons are just.
3- Preventing her from answering the phone.

Patience and Mildness

* Problems are expected in every marriage so this is normal. What is wrong is excessive responses and magnifying problems until a marital breakdown.
* Anger should be shown when she exceeds the boundaries of Allah SWT, by delaying prayers, backbiting, watching prohibited scenes on TV, etc..
* Forgive the mistakes she does to you.

Correcting her Mistakes

* First, implicit and explicit advice several times.
* Then by turning your back to her in bed (displaying your feelings). Note that this does not include leaving the bedroom to another room, leaving the house to another place, or not talking with her.
* The last solution
@ MK AND Toor: Inshallah tomorrow i will post and will email you.

Asalamualaykum…

MashaAllah! <3
How cute… doesn’t every sister wish she had a husband like that?
InshaAllah…

We are going on umrah this year inshallah. We’ll be flying with British airlines on a direct flight and so it will be very hard to travel from the uk to jedha with the ehram on for the men. We thought that we could go to aisha mosque first, get dressed into the ehram and make our intentions to travel and perform our umrah from there, islamically would this be accepted?

Knowledgeable answers pls, no opinions.
Also do you know of any good sites to ask an imaam/sheikh?
Thank you!
I’ve just read that you should be in the state of ihram before you enter Meeqat as you have said. So inshallah we’ll leave in our ihram or change before Meeqat, thanks!
Salam Alaikum,

You need to be in Ihram before the Meeqat is passed in the Air.
This is because Ihram at the Meeqat is a Rukn of Hajj/Umrah.
So whether he wears his ihram from home, or on the Plane just before they announce the Meeqat, it will be fine insha’Allah.

It is also Sunnah for you to do Umrah straight away after you land in Makkah.
And regarding Masjid Aisha, you can go there to do Ihram if you want to perform another Umrah because that will be your Meeqat from Makkah. (I did this.. it was only approx 20 mins away from al Haram)

Hope this helps Insha’Allah… May Allah swt make this trip easy and accept it from you.

I would like to go to Umrah (saudi arabic, Mecca) via bus. Does anyone know of any travel agencies that will accomodate this and the expected price?
thanks so much

I am not sure about Abu Dhabi but there are many pilgimage tours companies in Dubai who take people for Umrah. You can easily get them in Abu Dhabi also. One of our friend go for Umrah from Dubai the company took AED 1000/- for every thing like 12 days tour+residence+travel+visa and our friend was telling that the arrangement was excellent.

i live in Riyadh…i will be travelling to Jeddah by air and then by car to Makkah for my Umrah…so when should I put on my Ihram…at home at riyadh or Jeddah??

Thanks

I can’t remember the exact way this is measured but it has something to do with distance to go to Mecca. I believe if you are travelling by air to Jiddah you pass close enough to Mecca to necessitate putting it on. They do tell you about this on the plane if you travel with an Islamic country airline - I just can’t remember what the name of this is (Meekhat I think).
Of course alternatively you can put it on going by road from Jiddah to Mecca, the drivers will know where to stop.

35. Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) taught us this. It’s a blessing. The food doesn’t just go to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you.

36. Protect your wife from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and Shaitaan.

37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. IT’S A CHARITY.

38. Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn’t like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big.

39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) ‘if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.’ It confirms prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.

40. Respect her thinking. It’s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.

41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success within as her success is your success.

42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tenderly. Sometime she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling.

43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt).

44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.

45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her.

46. Let her know you are travelling. Don’t tell her out of the blue as it’s against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also.

47. Don’t leave the house as soon as trouble brews.

48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose.

49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for Hajj or Umrah together. It increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc.

50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious.

51. Allah( swt) said ‘live with your wives in kindness.’ Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness.

52. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t jump on your wife like an animal!

53. When you have a dispute with your wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with.

54. Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.

55. Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam). Get rid of this disease.

56. Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.

57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that your wife is a trust in your hand.

58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.

59. Accept her as she is. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.

60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

May Allah fill our homes and hearts with tranquillity, love and mercy now and forever!!!

Ameen….
part one:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20100502025825AAumyTy
There was one for sisters too, but i can’t find it. if anyone knows it, please post it!
it’s shame that they probably are avoiding it. i titled it this way to catch their attention too. maybe i should post the links in my answers too…
idk why the men are so reluctant to read it. i mean, i’m jsut 17, not married yet and i still read and study stuff like this for when i do get married so i can keep my wife happy and so that Allah may Be Pleased with me as well and may Bless our marriage

I am being protecting mine wifes….i be insure they wear the niqab as it fills them with love and be making thems secure

list of travel’s that issue Umrah visa in mumbai

There are many travels arranging Umrah Packages,
pls see below weblink for more details, be sure before applying…This is big matter pls verify once again

I am planning to travel via Road from Dubai to Jeddah, and wanted to perform Umrah as well.
Question
1) I have car, but on lease. Can i Travel on that car?
2) If i have documents from Bank that i can travel do i have to take permission from RTA?
3) Do i need Car Insurance of Saudia Region?
4) How many hours drive is there from Dubai to Riyadh and Riyadh to Jeddah
5) Is there is only one route or more from Dubai to Riyadh
Thank u.. But any idea what documents are require, other than visa & passport at the Border while going to Saudia???

as i know
1- yes u can but, put u have to bring a permission from the bank to travel.
2- is your document to travil outside country then u can.
3-no no need to insurance and if it is needed then from the board.
4- from duabi to riyadh 8-10 hours according to speed. and also 8-9 hour from riyadh to jedah.
5- from emarit to riyadh there is 2 road but the nearest is thou alkarj. and riyadh to jeddah only one road.

i am planning to go Umrah with my family but i want to book my ticket (flight) online because it is cheaper than a travel agent so do i have to get it from the embassy in london or what??? please tell in full explanation also i heared you cant book your own tickets is that right?why?

Thank you!

You do need to book your trip through a travel agent acknowledged in KSA like i.e.
http://www.eonetravel.co.uk/umrah_final.html to obtain a visa. (you’ll find more looking online) The Saudi Embassy doesn’t issue Umrah Visas.

Why? Guess it’s called "organisation" and it’s just not the Embassy’s job to issue visas to go on Pilgrimage. They have to take care of other things also:))

37. Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. IT’S A CHARITY.

38. Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn’t like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big.

39. Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) ‘if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.’ It confirms prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.

40. Respect her thinking. It’s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.

41. Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success within as her success is your success.

42. Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tenderly. Sometime she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling.

43. Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt).

44. Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.

45. Sit down and eat with her and share food with her.

46. Let her know you are travelling. Don’t tell her out of the blue as it’s against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also.

47. Don’t leave the house as soon as trouble brews.

48. The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose.

49. Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for Hajj or Umrah together. It increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc.

50. Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious.

51. Allah( swt) said ‘live with your wives in kindness.’ Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness.

52. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t jump on your wife like an animal!

53. When you have a dispute with your wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with.

54. Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.

55. Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam). Get rid of this disease.

56. Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.

57. Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that your wife is a trust in your hand.

58. Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.

59. Accept her as she is. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.

60. Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

May Allah fill our homes and hearts with tranquillity, love and mercy now and forever!!!

Ameen….
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PART 1 is here

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvXJ2kBj8s47t8OzKosxYdzsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100320095759AA7F5z
PART 1 IS HERE

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AopoKrevnzTGGVUMTuY8VGrsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20100320095759AA7F5zS

Asalam’alaykum,

I just copied and saved it before it gets deleted again…
Thanks for sharing