Comments on: This might be long, but any advice for me? http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me Take the Journey of a lifetime Mon, 21 May 2012 08:18:05 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Vladislav http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13395 Vladislav Sun, 04 Apr 2010 05:02:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13395 Salam Alaikum, it would be better for you to be a professor of English instead of a theater director to avoid too much interaction with men. As for the kafir man who is interested in you, be prudent of his intentions, he might just be interested in you because he finds you exotic and may revert just to be with you and not for the deen. Try to find a pious mukmin online or at the mosque through nikah services.<br><b>References : </b><br> Salam Alaikum, it would be better for you to be a professor of English instead of a theater director to avoid too much interaction with men. As for the kafir man who is interested in you, be prudent of his intentions, he might just be interested in you because he finds you exotic and may revert just to be with you and not for the deen. Try to find a pious mukmin online or at the mosque through nikah services.
References :

]]> By: Ubaida http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13394 Ubaida Sun, 04 Apr 2010 04:32:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13394 You seem to pay a lot of attention of the opinion of people around you and that's not good it you care that much . You know yourself well , you're wise and a good Muslimah . You don't need the approval of anyone as long as you know what you're doing is right and you have to show them that you don't really care about their opinions of your actions because your happiness and peace of mind is more important than to make everyone else happy with what you do , It's your life and not theirs so let them mind their own business and leave you live the way you want it live it and not the way they want it to be . Peace!<br><b>References : </b><br> You seem to pay a lot of attention of the opinion of people around you and that’s not good it you care that much . You know yourself well , you’re wise and a good Muslimah . You don’t need the approval of anyone as long as you know what you’re doing is right and you have to show them that you don’t really care about their opinions of your actions because your happiness and peace of mind is more important than to make everyone else happy with what you do , It’s your life and not theirs so let them mind their own business and leave you live the way you want it live it and not the way they want it to be .

Peace!
References :

]]> By: majeed3245 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13393 majeed3245 Sun, 04 Apr 2010 03:59:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13393 Wa Alaikum Assalam, Your grandfather is all you need for support. Don't care about grand mother. Keep on doing the right thing. Ask Allah is he is right for you in Salat al-Istikharah. Allah will either make you forget about him if He doesn't approve or Allah will make your feelings stronger than now for this man. Old ladies have one track minds. If Allah approves the man you want, Allah may guide him to accept Islam and marry you because you are a good Muslimah. You won't be able to convince your grand mother to support you. If grand father supports you then why worry about grand ma, she will not be with you for ever any way.<br><b>References : </b><br> Wa Alaikum Assalam,

Your grandfather is all you need for support. Don’t care about grand mother. Keep on doing the right thing. Ask Allah is he is right for you in Salat al-Istikharah. Allah will either make you forget about him if He doesn’t approve or Allah will make your feelings stronger than now for this man.
Old ladies have one track minds. If Allah approves the man you want, Allah may guide him to accept Islam and marry you because you are a good Muslimah.

You won’t be able to convince your grand mother to support you. If grand father supports you then why worry about grand ma, she will not be with you for ever any way.
References :

]]> By: Mohammad http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13392 Mohammad Sun, 04 Apr 2010 03:39:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13392 the only issue i see is ur progency, all is fine u will be fine he weather he converts or not he will be fine, but what about ur kids, u know how tough it is to grow up believing and well brought up kids and they are so important that its in the riwayat that they are (pious onces ) a source of mercy in our graves, remember Allah will ask you bout them and rest as you deem fit coz with a non muslim husband it will be tough to give them sirat al mustakeem remember that ma as salam peace<br><b>References : </b><br> the only issue i see is ur progency, all is fine u will be fine he weather he converts or not he will be fine, but what about ur kids, u know how tough it is to grow up believing and well brought up kids and they are so important that its in the riwayat that they are (pious onces ) a source of mercy in our graves, remember Allah will ask you bout them and rest as you deem fit coz with a non muslim husband it will be tough to give them sirat al mustakeem remember that
ma as salam
peace
References :

]]> By: Ruchjat K http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13391 Ruchjat K Sun, 04 Apr 2010 03:13:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13391 Wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullah.Reading your story I have the opinion that you are areal good muslimah and you have a beautiful goal of your career and you make all effort to reach your goal.Insya Allah with hard efforts and du'a you will reach your ideal goal in the future. I can give a slight advice to you (1)Please continue to do good doings and avoid bad doings every day based on the Qur'an and hadith (2)Do your mandatory prayer on time everyday and plus at least 2 raka'ats of sunnah prayer before or after mandatory prayer except after fajr time and ashr time. (3)Please talk and discuss honestly with your grandmother and grandfather and also your sister about your would be husband's criteria ,your daily activities and also your would be career so they will support you as long as it is in line with the Qur'an and hadith In reality they want you to be happy and safety as a good muslimah because both of them love you very much.Your grandmother has not an intention to hurt you please be apologized. (3)If you are upset or angry please as soon as possible you make wudhu and do sunnah prayer at least 2 raka'ats,make dzikir or recite the Qur'an, so your anger will fade away in line with hadith Anger is made by syaitans,you should say audzubillah he minash syaiton nir rojeem and astaqfiru llah al adheem.. You are better making dzikir and you say syahadah every day when you hear the azzan calling and after you finish wudhu.May Allah bless you and show the right path.<br><b>References : </b><br> Wa alaikum salam wa rahmatullah.Reading your story I have the opinion that you are areal good muslimah and you have a beautiful goal of your career and you make all effort to reach your goal.Insya Allah with hard efforts and du’a you will reach your ideal goal in the future.
I can give a slight advice to you (1)Please continue to do good doings and avoid bad doings every day based on the Qur’an and hadith (2)Do your mandatory prayer on time everyday and plus at least 2 raka’ats of sunnah prayer before or after mandatory prayer except after fajr time and ashr time. (3)Please talk and discuss honestly with your grandmother and grandfather and also your sister about your would be husband’s criteria ,your daily activities and also your would be career so they will support you as long as it is in line with the Qur’an and hadith In reality they want you to be happy and safety as a good muslimah because both of them love you very much.Your grandmother has not an intention to hurt you please be apologized.
(3)If you are upset or angry please as soon as possible you make wudhu and do sunnah prayer at least 2 raka’ats,make dzikir or recite the Qur’an, so your anger will fade away in line with hadith Anger is made by syaitans,you should say audzubillah he minash syaiton nir rojeem and astaqfiru llah al adheem.. You are better making dzikir and you say syahadah every day when you hear
the azzan calling and after you finish wudhu.May Allah bless you and show the right path.
References :

]]> By: ASDF http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13390 ASDF Sun, 04 Apr 2010 02:58:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13390 Going through infertility - Leave her alone, she is stating an opinion that can't be told to her grandmothers face so back off. Qul Huwallahu Ahad - she is stating what she does, she is not trying to sound like an amazing Muslim, why can't you people get out of your tiny boxes and understand the bigger picture Assalam, You are a newer generation of Muslim and people can't understand that fact of getting culture out of the way. One thing you can't forget is basic human emotions, does he really love you? Or is he doing it out of lust? On the other hand, u must understand where your grandparents are coming from, be glad your grandfather supports you as he is the one that will make you feel loved and appreciated most of your life. As for your grandmother, I do not personally know how to deal with that type of situation, but I am in the same place as you except I am following their wishes. Best of luck, allahafiz.<br><b>References : </b><br> Going through infertility - Leave her alone, she is stating an opinion that can’t be told to her grandmothers face so back off.

Qul Huwallahu Ahad - she is stating what she does, she is not trying to sound like an amazing Muslim, why can’t you people get out of your tiny boxes and understand the bigger picture

Assalam,

You are a newer generation of Muslim and people can’t understand that fact of getting culture out of the way. One thing you can’t forget is basic human emotions, does he really love you? Or is he doing it out of lust?

On the other hand, u must understand where your grandparents are coming from, be glad your grandfather supports you as he is the one that will make you feel loved and appreciated most of your life. As for your grandmother, I do not personally know how to deal with that type of situation, but I am in the same place as you except I am following their wishes.

Best of luck,
allahafiz.
References :

]]> By: Zita http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13389 Zita Sun, 04 Apr 2010 02:33:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13389 Islam is your reason for living, religion will never be my reason for living, My love for life is reason for living..Muslim God can be emotionally abusive too much<br><b>References : </b><br> Islam is your reason for living, religion will never be my reason for living, My love for life is reason for living..Muslim God can be emotionally abusive too much
References :

]]> By: ~*??Qinzy??*~? http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13388 ~*??Qinzy??*~? Sun, 04 Apr 2010 01:57:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13388 Be patient... And you know what maybe meet some more other muslim guys... your grandma is old... be patient with her... this really just comes down to the fact that even if ur a bad muslim... if u marry another muslims and a virgin then it's all good... but if ur a good muslim and like a non muslim or are a non-virgin then it's like none that you do to please Allah SWT means nothing and in the eyes of the people nothing matters other then the fact ur virgin and u marry a muslim... Also kinda just ignore your sister... no need to deal with people like that if they only hurt and anger you... Your a good sister... just pray to Allah SWT and really don't be so hung up on one guy... look at other muslim brothers...<br><b>References : </b><br> Be patient…

And you know what maybe meet some more other muslim guys…

your grandma is old… be patient with her…

this really just comes down to the fact that even if ur a bad muslim… if u marry another muslims and a virgin then it’s all good…

but if ur a good muslim and like a non muslim or are a non-virgin then it’s like none that you do to please Allah SWT means nothing and in the eyes of the people nothing matters other then the fact ur virgin and u marry a muslim…

Also kinda just ignore your sister… no need to deal with people like that if they only hurt and anger you…

Your a good sister…

just pray to Allah SWT and really don’t be so hung up on one guy… look at other muslim brothers…
References :

]]> By: Qul Huwallahu Ahad. http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13387 Qul Huwallahu Ahad. Sun, 04 Apr 2010 01:09:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13387 "- I pray 5 times a day. I even wake up at 6:00 AM to pray Fajr" You say this as if Allah should really bless you or that you are doing Allah a really big favour by praying Fajr on time. Well in Canada, in summer, Fajr, earliest is 3 38 am, I used to stay awake whole night, pray fajr, sleep, wake up before dhuhr, etc... praying each salah on time is fardh, whether we like it or not. Being too religious and getting called TOO RELIGIOUS? Here, this might HIGHLY help u "Contradicting Community - Nouman Ali Khan" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LumwYGp729w&feature=PlayList&p=DCBBE85D002BF91C&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=38<br><b>References : </b><br> "- I pray 5 times a day. I even wake up at 6:00 AM to pray Fajr"

You say this as if Allah should really bless you or that you are doing Allah a really big favour by praying Fajr on time.

Well in Canada, in summer, Fajr, earliest is 3 38 am, I used to stay awake whole night, pray fajr, sleep, wake up before dhuhr, etc…

praying each salah on time is fardh, whether we like it or not.

Being too religious and getting called TOO RELIGIOUS?

Here, this might HIGHLY help u
"Contradicting Community - Nouman Ali Khan"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LumwYGp729w&feature=PlayList&p=DCBBE85D002BF91C&playnext=1&playnext_from=PL&index=38
References :

]]> By: Going through infertility http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me/comment-page-1#comment-13386 Going through infertility Sun, 04 Apr 2010 00:33:59 +0000 http://blog.hajjumrahreview.com/hajj-guide/this-might-be-long-but-any-advice-for-me#comment-13386 Walaykum Salaam. Sister you are backbiting about your family so you are sinning by talking about them when they cannot defend themselves. Be careful of what you say. Listen to your grandmother, she's older than you and knows more about the world. What do your parents have to say about you wanting to be with a non-Muslim boy (regardless if he converts or not) and you being a director? Personally I do not think it's in your best interest to be a director as you will be interacting with non-mahram men which could cause fitnah and lead to az-zina.<br><b>References : </b><br> Walaykum Salaam. Sister you are backbiting about your family so you are sinning by talking about them when they cannot defend themselves. Be careful of what you say. Listen to your grandmother, she’s older than you and knows more about the world. What do your parents have to say about you wanting to be with a non-Muslim boy (regardless if he converts or not) and you being a director? Personally I do not think it’s in your best interest to be a director as you will be interacting with non-mahram men which could cause fitnah and lead to az-zina.
References :

]]>