How can a person stop from doing haram things?
it can be anything, basically whatever Haram.
even if a person does stop and ask for forgiveness then ends up doing it again, how can they stop for once and for all?
Personally, I don’t base my morality on the rantings of bronze age zealots.
As an atheist, I find that everybody is human and we do human things. Sometimes we make mistakes. The only way to stop making mistakes is to stop being human.
Also, I’m not into forgiveness. Instead, I look at the good and bad in all people. There are some people I dislike more than I like. I tend to stay away from them. If later, they change or I see them in a better light, I may change my opinion about them. That happens whether or not I happen to forgive any particular action they take.
It’s more important to respect people for who they are than to check off a list of things you have to fogive of them.
March 6th, 2010 at 4:51 am
why would we
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March 6th, 2010 at 5:19 am
good luck with that…if your religion forbids random things that are normal human behavior, then youre doomed to be a sinner.
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March 6th, 2010 at 5:55 am
Personally, I don’t base my morality on the rantings of bronze age zealots.
As an atheist, I find that everybody is human and we do human things. Sometimes we make mistakes. The only way to stop making mistakes is to stop being human.
Also, I’m not into forgiveness. Instead, I look at the good and bad in all people. There are some people I dislike more than I like. I tend to stay away from them. If later, they change or I see them in a better light, I may change my opinion about them. That happens whether or not I happen to forgive any particular action they take.
It’s more important to respect people for who they are than to check off a list of things you have to fogive of them.
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March 6th, 2010 at 6:33 am
just keep on seeking mercy …one day he/she will get salvation ….somethings are Irresistable
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March 6th, 2010 at 7:11 am
Tha’labah al-Asadi asked the Messenger (s) of Allah about this verse:
O you who believe! Take care of your souls; he who errs cannot hurt you when you are on the right way. (5:105)
The Messenger (s) of Allah said, ‘Enjoin what is good and forbid what is evil, and be forbearing in whatever afflicts you, until such time when you see meanness obeyed and passions followed, and when everyone will have conceit about their own opinion, then you should concern yourself only with yourself, and ignore the affairs of the common people.’
Whoever guards his heart from heedlessness, protects his self from appetites, and guards his intellect from ignorance, will be admitted into the company of the vigilant. Then he who guards his knowledge from fancies, his faith from innovation, and his property from the forbidden is among the righteous.
The Messenger (s) of Allah said, ‘This world lasts but an hour, so spend it in obedience to Allah.’
Those of His servants who are possessed of knowledge fear Allah.(35:28)
The Messenger of Allah said, ‘It is a duty for every Muslim, man and woman, to seek knowledge,’ that is, knowledge of the self. Therefore it is necessary for the self to be in all states either expressing his gratitude or proffering his excuse for lack of gratitude. If this is acceptable to Allah it is a favour upon him, and if not it is justice upon him. For every self it is necessary to work that it may succeed in its acts of obedience, and for its protection in its efforts to abstain from doing harm.
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March 6th, 2010 at 7:41 am
To stop from doing haram things one may need :
1. Fear of Allah
2. Will power
3. Determination from the doer him/her self
4. Finding a Halal alternative
5. Avoiding being alone
6. Concentration on Religious matters
7. Reading Al-Qur’aan once you get an opportunity to do a haraam thing.
8. Saying Astaghfaar (seeking pardon with determination).
9. Praying 5 times a day, regularly, come what may.
10. Praying additional rakaaths of prayers, imploring, seeking help of Allah to get rid of a bad habit.
In will power there is none in the world stronger than a Muslim. This is manifest from the month of Ramadhan. Almost 100% of haraam things and other smaller sins are stopped by every fasting Muslim for the full 30 days.
Hence, fasting also prevents haraam doings. You cannot fast every day other than Ramadhan, but one day of the week (Monday as Sunnah) will also help to keep the crime rate low.
First try to kill the strongest Haraam commitment, other habits will not need more efforts, then.
Hope this will help
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March 6th, 2010 at 8:11 am
sorry to say this but it is next to impossible to do that.
the point is that you try and be the best you can don’t feel bad no ones perfect we will all do something haraam
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March 6th, 2010 at 8:31 am
imagine the questioning in the grave, i think that might be able to stop the person
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March 6th, 2010 at 9:05 am
Keep on asking for forgiveness, and try your utmost to stop doing Haram things.
We should always keep in mind that we’ll have to face "Judgement Day".
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March 6th, 2010 at 9:17 am
Firstly , whatever Islam forbids is harmful and troubles the human’s life in a way or another. Here are some bad effects of sins http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/23425/sins
Secondly, it’s the nature of the human that he sins. But Islam urges the muslim to quit any sins and make repentance whenever he does any , even if he does them again and again. http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/45887/sins
Thirdly , it depends on the human’s will and decision and this is the test of this life. In the hereafter there will be a big difference between those who tried their best to obey Allah taala , and those who have done whatever they desired neglecting Allah’s commands.
May Allah subhanhu wataala forgive us all.
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http://www.islam-qa.com/en/search2/sins/AllWords/t,q,a
March 6th, 2010 at 9:41 am
just remember Allah, listen to Islamic music, like Sami Yusuf, listen to Surahs. Even when watching Tv or ding whatever, just recite "Laila ilalah" or "Allahu Akbar" to urself. After a while, u wont need these methods to remind u, u will naturally remember Allah and stay away from haram.
FYI, human being are by nature sinful, this doesnt justify it rather t explains it, so dont kill ur self over a sin or sins sister. The fact that u r inquiring about this is beautiful.
Salam
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March 6th, 2010 at 10:00 am
FALLING INTO SIN
al-Jumu’ah Magazine
IN TODAY’S SOCIETY, WHAT CAN ONE DO TO PROTECT HIS EMAAN, IMPROVE HIS CHARACTER AND BE THE MUSLIM HE WANTS TO BE?
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http://islamicarticles.wordpress.com/sins-and-repentence/
March 6th, 2010 at 10:32 am
did you read the latest book by Ali?
"WHY IS MY DAD IN HELL?" - BY ALI
more great titles are
"WHY DID I SLEEP ALL DAY LONG" - By Ali
"WHY DID WE KILL MUSLIMS" - By Hassan and Hussain
"WHY DID WE KILL OUR BROTHERS" - The Shia
one of my favorites is:
"HOW CAN I KEEP KILLING" - Muslims
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March 6th, 2010 at 10:43 am
did you read the latest book by Ali?
"WHY IS MY DAD IN HELL?" - BY ALI
more great titles are
"WHY DID I SLEEP ALL DAY LONG" - By Ali
"WHY DID WE KILL MUSLIMS" - By Hassan and Hussain
"WHY DID WE KILL OUR BROTHERS" - The Shia
"I AM STILL ALIVE" - ALI
"CALL ME YOUR LORD" - SHIA
"LET ME HAVE THE BOUTY" - SHIA
"HOW CAN I BEAT MYSELF HARDER" - SHIA
"WHY IS MY KIDS ALL MURDERED" - ALI DAD
one of my favorites is:
"HOW CAN I KEEP KILLING" - Muslims
"YAZID IS A GREAT MAN" - By Ali
"Why did I kill Mawyia" - The shia
"MY DAD IS FRYING IN HELL" - By Ali
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March 6th, 2010 at 11:05 am
A similar question was asked here: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhIqLyxVy6CYGzDnv.btDhTnDH1G;_ylv=3?qid=20100222112003AAGylOD
And I feel the answer I gave was pretty much the answer as I’ve come to understand it. Inshallah you will find it to be true.
Salaam/Peace
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March 6th, 2010 at 11:16 am
Increase your iman.
That is the ONLY way you can become a good Muslim.
How do you do this?
Listen to Qur’an recitations, PRAY, carry out small deeds during the day, help your mother, etc.
Only when you have the inner strength can you overcome Shaytan.
Peace.
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March 6th, 2010 at 11:51 am
Read and Study Quran and ask for Allah’s forgiveness
as Al-Qur’an says
[5]. Surah Al-Ma’idah [The Table Spread With Food]
Ayat 34. Except for those who (having fled away and then) came back (as Muslims) with repentance before they fall into your power; in that case, know that Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Hadith
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah [S.A.W.W](P.B.U.H) said, "Allah says: `I am just as My slave thinks of Me when he remembers Me.’ By Allah! Allah is more pleased with the repentance of His slave than one of you who unexpectedly finds in the desert his lost camel. `He who comes closer to Me one span, I come closer to him a cubit; and he who comes closer to Me a cubit, I come closer to him a fathom; and if he comes to Me walking, I come to him running".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].
Lesson : as mentioned above in Surah Al-Ma’idah Ayat 34 "with repentance before they fall into your power; in that case, know that Allah is Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful". This Hadith highlights the merits of sincere repentance and then expecting good treatment of Allah. But this has to be backed by good actions, in the same way as one can hope for good results after ploughing and sowing seeds. It is obvious that one who accomplishes good deeds will expect good consequences, and one who does evil deeds will expect evil consequences. Allah will treat people according to their expectation that are founded on their actions, and the reward will match their deeds.
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