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did any of ur parents passed away? how do u handle the pain?

Doctors told me that my father will die three weeks before he passed away, but i didn’t tell my father that he is going to die.
i had a strong faith that Allah can heal him no matter what doctors said, i was telling my father everyday that u look great, everything will be just fine and u’ll come back to home very soon.
I was doing everything I could to him; praying, reading qur’an on him, charity, read qu’ran on Zamzam water and wipe his body with it,…etc.
i was crying everyday, i couldn’t believe that this is actually happening to me and I refused to believe what doctors said.
suddenly he became very tired and breath hardly, he looked very weird; like he is between two worlds, I cried a lot and I grabbed his hand and whispered at his ear all the time that doctors gave him medicine and he’ll be fine.

I had no idea that he was in sakarat al mawt, one more day and he passed away.
Alhamdolilah my father said the tshahod and passed away with a smile on his face, thank Allah.
But its so painful when I remember him, I cry everyday, I saw him very weak, tired…etc.
I pray for him everyday but what I want to know did any of ur parents passed away, ur stories could condolence me.
thank u reema

Don’t worry sister! You are not alone in the world whose father is no longer in the world. Three months have past since my father died. He died on 26th February, this year. I am only 15 years old, but I am ready to handle every sorts of situations. I believe in Allah, that He will surely give me patience. On that day in evening, I was playing on computer like my regular routine. Suddenly, I heard loud sound of breathes coming from my father’s room. I quickly ran, opened the door and saw that my father’s eyes have been tilted, so were his feet and hands and some foam type substance was coming out of his mouth. I called my mom, she ran and came. I called doctor, we took him to hospital, as I could never think that he has died. The doctors in hospital said that he has expired 1/2 hours ago. Could you believe? I never cried. When doctors told me, I said OK. It was his time. And as ordered by Allah in Surah Baqarah, I said that:
"Whenever you lose something, say: ‘We belong to Allah, and we will surely return to Him"
My mom still don’t believe that he is no more, and she cries atleast half an hour daily. But I don’t want to condole her. Actually, I don’t know that what should I say her to give her condolence. I never seen my sister crying, just on the day of his Janaza, she cried. It is the truth that I never cried, but I always remember his love and grace.

You would still be older, look at the faces of small children who don’t even know who their father was. They don’t even know, what is the love of a father. Thanks to Allah, that He has provided us an oppurtunity to see how fathers are. I don’t say anything bad to Allah, because I can’t. I don’t know if your father’s responsibilities have now been shifted to you, or if you have some brothers and sisters. All what I know is that now everything is on me, my mother’s responsibility, my sister’s. Everything is one me. Be patient, also think that you’re still grown up, I am just 15. How am I living? It will really condole your heart.

May Allah grant every Muslims who have passed through this world, the Jannat ul Firdous
Jazak Allahi Khayrin, Sister.

6 Responses to “did any of ur parents passed away? how do u handle the pain?”

  1. Reema Says:

    I’m reading this before I walk out the door for my University class,and I cannot help but glance over at my parents who woke for Fajr and who also woke me up in time.
    We all love our parents dearly and respect them inshAllah,in accordance to everything humanity teaches us along with what Allah and his messengers (Alayhum salam) have told us as well.
    I have both my parents,Alhamdulillah,but I can understand your pain dearest sister.
    Everything good and bad is a blessing from Allah.
    You lost your father (May Allah forgive him and give him the highest level of Jannah) but you gained a higher level of faith mashaAllah.

    We are all here for you sis,I swear it.
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  2. H.K :P (?? ???? ????) Says:

    salam sister

    inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon - To God we belong and to God we will return.
    May Allah ta’ala grant u dad with Janat-ul-Firdous and May Allah ta’ala have mercy on his soul, amin

    Sorry to hear ur loss sister, May Allah ta’ala make it e z for u and ur family, amin <3

    umm alhamduallah my parents are alive, altho my dad lost his dad, due to a heart attack [may he be granted jannah too, amin] My dad was devasted cos he loved his dad to bits and so was my dad’s mum and brother. Subhnallah it was really sad when he died :( makes me tearful thinking about it :( I was only 6 months old :P but when i think about it, it’s very sad :(

    salam xox
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  3. Birdgirl123 Says:

    Both my parents have passed away and it is very difficult to watch the transition from the physical to the spiritual from the standpoint of still wanting your parents to be with you on the physical plane. However, the physical body is only a vessel in which we learn and progress into the spiritual. When one is near death, this becomes very apparent to them, but not to the loved ones being left behind on this journey. It is natural for you to grieve for the loss of your father and to miss his being with you as you make your journey through the physical, but read and hold true to your beliefs that he is now in a higher place, watching over you and helping you to reach your true potential in this life. Think of him as being at peace and in such a place where there is no pain, no disease, no trials to overcome, only bliss and happiness. You must be willing to let him go on in his journey and continue in yours, however difficult it may seem at this time to do so.
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  4. =o Says:

    Go to his grave and recite Surah Ya’ Sin.

    Anas (Ra) reported Rasulullah (Saw) saying, "Whoever goes to the graveyard and reads Surah Ya’ Sin Allah gives them (the grave dwellers) ease that day, and the reciter receives spiritual blessings equivalent to the amount of letters of Surah Yasin.”

    The dead can hear what you say as well :) You’re dad would be so happy :)
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    Allah (Swt) knows best.

  5. dr mo Says:

    Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Rajioon.
    may ALLAH grant your dad heaven.
    may ALLAH give u peace and strengthen u.
    its a hard time for u at the moment ino i have been through it its hard its very hard because now one can take the place of your parents they are just the most beautiful people in your life.its really hard to come over it but its very important to understand that To ALLAH we belong and to ALLAH we will return.
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  6. Ahsan Iqbal Says:

    Don’t worry sister! You are not alone in the world whose father is no longer in the world. Three months have past since my father died. He died on 26th February, this year. I am only 15 years old, but I am ready to handle every sorts of situations. I believe in Allah, that He will surely give me patience. On that day in evening, I was playing on computer like my regular routine. Suddenly, I heard loud sound of breathes coming from my father’s room. I quickly ran, opened the door and saw that my father’s eyes have been tilted, so were his feet and hands and some foam type substance was coming out of his mouth. I called my mom, she ran and came. I called doctor, we took him to hospital, as I could never think that he has died. The doctors in hospital said that he has expired 1/2 hours ago. Could you believe? I never cried. When doctors told me, I said OK. It was his time. And as ordered by Allah in Surah Baqarah, I said that:
    "Whenever you lose something, say: ‘We belong to Allah, and we will surely return to Him"
    My mom still don’t believe that he is no more, and she cries atleast half an hour daily. But I don’t want to condole her. Actually, I don’t know that what should I say her to give her condolence. I never seen my sister crying, just on the day of his Janaza, she cried. It is the truth that I never cried, but I always remember his love and grace.

    You would still be older, look at the faces of small children who don’t even know who their father was. They don’t even know, what is the love of a father. Thanks to Allah, that He has provided us an oppurtunity to see how fathers are. I don’t say anything bad to Allah, because I can’t. I don’t know if your father’s responsibilities have now been shifted to you, or if you have some brothers and sisters. All what I know is that now everything is on me, my mother’s responsibility, my sister’s. Everything is one me. Be patient, also think that you’re still grown up, I am just 15. How am I living? It will really condole your heart.

    May Allah grant every Muslims who have passed through this world, the Jannat ul Firdous
    Jazak Allahi Khayrin, Sister.
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